I am living here in the US doing Islamic work full-time I was born and raised here, and my parents live here. The amîr of the da'wah effort told us that we do not have to spend too much time with our parents or take care of our parents' needs like others must, because we are here for da'wah. Therefore, I do not spend a lot of time with my parents, just an hour or so at night, and I do very little for them. People in the community blame me and say my mother is unhappy with me. What should I do?
Sheikh `Abd al-Wahhâb al-Turayrî, former professor at al-Imâm University in Riyadh
You have to give priority to your parents, be kind to them and seek their pleasure. Their right comes before any other rights unless they ask you for something unlawful or prevent you from any legal obligation. Allah Has commanded us to be kind to unbelieving parents, then how about Muslim parents?
Allah says: “And We have enjoined on man to be good to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to your parents. To Me is the final goal. But if they strive to make you join in worship with Me things of which you have no knowledge, obey them not. Yet bear them company in this life in a goodly manner.” [Sûrah Luqmân: 14-15]
Obedience to the parent is obligatory on every child while engaging in specific da`wah activities is not. In Sahîh al-Bukhârî, we have the well-known story of Jurayj. He busied himself with voluntary worship and did not heed his mother’s call. His mother made a supplication against him for this and Allah accepted that mother’s supplication.
You should try harder to coordinate between your desire to engage in da`wah and fulfilling your legal obligations towards your parents. Try to convince them of the value of the work you are doing for Islam.
Source: Islam Today
-- Al Arabiya Digital