What to do at a home where people listen to music & do other misdeeds.
24 Aug 2011 12:38 GMT
 
Many of people in my home watch licentious television programs and do other misdeeds. What should I do? Should I continue to admonish them? Should I shun them?

nswered by

Sheikh Sâmî al-Mâjid

Do not feel despair on account the misconduct and misdeeds of your family and do not abandon them. You have the right only to leave their company in the place where they gather to see or practice something forbidden, but do not do it elsewhere. You can only abandon the place but not the people. This is particularly so in your case, as they are your closest relatives.

It is well-known in our religion that abandoning people is not preferable if it does not have a positive affect on them. If abandoning them will only increase their resistance and their engaging in misdeeds, then they must not be abandoned.

Your one or two unheeded attempts at advising them should not break your hope for their guidance. This is what Satan would inspire you to feel. On the contrary, this should make you think again of the way you are conducting your calling and advising. Maybe it is your failure in calling them properly that is causing their unresponsiveness.

Allah says: “Invite to the way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious.” [Sûrah al-Nahl: 125]

From this verse you can recognize the means and tools mostly needed for your objectives. With wisdom, you can see that it requires calling others after gaining necessary knowledge. You have to know exactly what is lawful and unlawful. You also need knowledge to recognize the condition of the person to be called and what suits him in order to advise him properly and effectively.

Beautiful preaching includes being kind and polite and avoiding harshness and rough treatment. Allah likes kind treatment and rewards it more than harsh treatment. Whenever kindness enters something, it beautifies it, and whenever kindness is absent from something, it will be ugly.

You should know, may Allah increase your knowledge, that being kind to people is the most effective way in steering their hearts positively. So be good to your family, in all possible means, including a good word, a smile, assisting them in their needs, and giving them gifts.

Look for some lawful alternatives to replace the wrong things they are doing, such as Islamic programs or other permissible programs which are available at bookshops. This is a successful way to help people who usually find no other way to fill their time.

And Allah knows best.

Source: Islam Today



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