Praise be to Allaah.
The Sunnah with regard to divorce is for the man to divorce his wife at a time of purity (i.e., when she is not menstruating) in which he has not had intercourse with her. If he divorces her at a time of purity when he has had intercourse with her, the divorce does count as such according to the majority of scholars.
Some scholars are of the view that this is an innovated divorce and does not count as such.
If a man divorces his wife with an innovated divorce and counts it as a divorce on the basis of his own understanding or on the basis that he is following the opinion of the majority or the opinion of one who issued a fatwa to that effect, then the divorce counts as such, and if he divorces his wife a third time he re-examine the previous divorce with the aim of taking her back. This is a kind of haraam trickery and his wife does not become permissible for him as a result.
Dr. Ahmad ibn âAbd al-Rahmaan al-Qaadi (may Allah preserve him) said:
I asked our shaykh -- Shaykh Ibn âUthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him): A man took his wife to her familyâs home intending to divorce her. But when he met her father he did not want to confront him with the clear word of divorce and he said: âIt seems that we are finished,â or words to that effect. That was during a period of purity in which he had had intercourse with her. Is she divorced?
He replied: This wording was accompanied by the intention, so it does count as a divorce. With regard to the fact that it was during a period of purity in which he had had intercourse with her, or a divorce at the time of menstruation, the way I issue my fatwa is as follows:
If the question comes and the woman is still in âiddah, I advise the questioner that no divorce has taken place, as is the more correct view.
If the question comes after the end of the âiddah, I advise him that divorce has taken place, as it is the view of the majority that the innovated divorce counts as such, because the husband believes that she is no longer married to him and that if she marries someone else after the âiddah has ended, it is valid.
Then he said: I asked our shaykh (may Allah have mercy on him): A man divorced his wife three times and his wife told him that the second divorce took place when she was menstruating. Is she irrevocably divorced from him?
He replied: I ruled that she is irrevocably divorced from him, because he divorced her believing that this was the last divorce and people did not recognise divorce during menses as anything other than divorce, and they did not regard a threefold divorce as one, until the fatwa of Shaykh Ibn Baaz to the contrary became well known. After that, if a manâs wife became irrevocably divorced from him, he would start to say things like: One divorce was at a time of extreme anger, another was when she was menstruating, and so on, in order to avoid losing his wife.
Then Dr. al-Qaadi said: I checked with him about that and some other brothers also checked with him on the basis that he did not think that an innovated divorce counted as such, but he reiterated his fatwa that in this case it does count as such.
End quote from Thamaraat al-Tadween min Masaaâil Ibn âUthaymeen
Based on that, you have divorced your wife three times.
And Allah knows best.