What the father did of uncovering his âawrah in front of his sons is haraam, because it is obligatory to cover the âawrah, except in the presence of his wife. It is also haraam to look at the âawrah of another person. It is not permissible to do any of these things except in the case of extreme necessity, such as medical treatment. Teaching oneâs sons how to shave the pubic hair is not regarded as a need or necessity which makes it permissible to uncover the âawrah, because it is permissible to teach them by describing and speaking, without uncovering anything; it is also possible to tell them how to remove the hair by other methods.
The saheeh texts clearly indicate that it is haraam for a man to look at the âawrah of another man, and for a woman to look at the âawrah of another woman. The scholars are unanimously agreed on this prohibition.
It was narrated that Abu Saâeed al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: âNo man should look at the âawrah of another man, and no woman should look at the âawrah of another woman.â
Narrated by Muslim (338).
Al-Tirmidhi (2794), Abu Dawood (4017) and Ibn Maajah (1920) narrated from Bahz ibn Hakeem, from his father, that his grandfather said: I said, O Messenger of Allaah, with regard to our âawrah, what may we uncover of it and what must we conceal? He said: âCover your âawrah except from your wife and those whom your right hand possesses (i.e., concubines).â I said, O Messenger of Allaah, what if the people live close together? He said, âIf you can make sure that no one sees it, then do not let anyone see it.â I said, O Messenger of Allaah, what if one of us is alone? He said, âAllaah is more deserving that you should feel shy before Him than people.â
This hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
Al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said in Sharh Muslim: The words of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), âNo man should look at the âawrah of another man, and no woman should look at the âawrah of another womanâ, indicate that it is haraam for a man to look at the âawrah of another man, and for a woman to look at the âawrah of another woman. There is no difference of (scholarly) opinion concerning this matter. The same prohibition applies to a man looking at the âawrah of a woman, and a woman looking at the âawrah of a man, according to scholarly consensus. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) mentioned a manâs looking at the âawrah of another man and a womanâs looking at the âawrah of another woman, which implies that a manâs looking at the âawrah of a woman is even more forbidden. This prohibition applies with regard to people other than husbands or masters. In the case of spouses, each may look at the entire âawrah of the other. End quote.
This father has to repent to Allah, may He be exalted, regret what he has done, and resolve never to do it again. He should raise his children to be modest and to have a good attitude; he should refrain from these abhorrent actions which are indicative of a lack of modesty.
And Allaah knows best.